Excuse my french, but who started this whole “Waiting On Boaz” BS?
Ok, before I get ahead of myself, let me explain. I perfectly understand the concept of waiting, it applies to many areas of our Christian lives. I understand “waiting on Boaz” is more of an invitation to wait on who God has for you. It’s trusting God. It’s believing in His word and promises.
However, the more I grow up, the more I realize how it can be an extremely dangerous narrative if not explained or understood properly, and unfortunately, it’s not. Nowadays, people often associate this narrative to being idle and not doing anything until you are found by the one, as if not being boo’d up is some kind of hindrance to motion or growth. Even if many people don’t actually believe that, constantly repeating it can ignite those thoughts, especially in a young lady’s mind. That’s where I have a problem. This idea has made its way to our pulpits, and to the ears of too many teenagers and single women. Questions like “what to do in the wait” are popular questions that always leave me perplexed. Like, what do you mean? You can’t live your life?
I’m obviously a bit passionate because it’s a topic close to my heart, having been a victim of it myself. I shared the story here, but the process of unlearning this had to be one of the best things to ever happen to me. I heard so often that Boaz was going to come and add so much to my life that I thought I couldn’t do it without a him. The gag is, for someone to add to something, there needs to be a something… no? I believe a relationship or marriage is nothing more than two people with 2 individual purposes AND a common purpose, doing life together, helping each other accomplish what they came here to do. I mean… Ruth was working, trying to make a living, before meeting Boaz but it doesn’t always have to be work as in a job or ministry. It can be working on yourself, praying, serving God, glowing up, educating yourself, having a hobby, whatever, but at some point, you have to make yourself your own project. Make sure you’re chasing the 1000 before you can chase the 10000 with your partner.
I had to understand and embrace the fact that I was an individual created by God, with a specific purpose for MY life. God thought about me and has a plan for ME. When I get to heaven, He won’t ask about my husband, He will ask about ME. So, I understood that with or without a partner in my life, I have things to do. Plus, realizing this also helped me when it comes to choosing a man because I have a better idea of what I need and want.
All this say, Sis, you’re not incomplete without a man. This is not another girl power slogan, but let it sink in. You are complete and perfectly fine. God has a specific plan for your life. If you don’t know it, find out! If you do know, study it, pursue it, develop it, grow in it, at your own pace. Don’t let the absence of Boaz be an excuse not to do what you’re supposed to do. Don’t allow anyone or anything to pressure you into something you’re not ready for. Ok?
Ever since my eyes opened, I stopped waiting, I started walking, running even. I started doing things by myself, for myself. I’m walking with God. I am going to be exactly where He needs me to be, when He needs me to be there, doing everything He wants me to do. That’s where my head is at and I will shamelessly say that that’s where I want all my sisters’ heads to be at. It’s the most liberating thing ever. I am living my best life.
What are some myths or ideas you had to let go of to really, truly, enjoy your life?