Esther's Diary – Jesus, Life & Shenanigans

The Trap Of Expectations

I have a question for you. What is one thing you’ve been working on? I don’t mean your business plan, I mean on yourself?

I have been working on myself a lot, not really by choice, lol. Lately, I’ve been working and praying about my heart a lot because, when we make Jesus the standard, we realize that we have a long way to go. I want to be more forgiving, patient and kind. I want to be less demanding of myself and people. I want to extend grace to myself and others around.

I have been disappointed a lot in my life. Even wrote a whole blog post about it. I believed that that’s just how life is and disappointment is inevitable. It made me hopeless at times, pessimistic, and afraid. Truth is, I had a lot of unspoken expectations and it took a lot to make me realize it. I held myself to a very high, almost unrealistic standard, and I expected the same of others. I expected the people in my life to play a specific part, fulfill a role, act a certain way. I expected situations to go the way I envisioned. Little did I know, I was being unfair, selfish and setting myself up for disappointment.

Truth is, the world does not revolve around me and people have the freedom to do as they please and be who they are. The problem is that many of us live in this illusion of control to the point where we decide how people will or should act, how situations will unfold, and then end up surprised, sad, frustrated when things do not go our way. I don’t control a thing in this life, especially not other human beings.

This behaviour, however, revealed to me that I placed my hope and expectations in the wrong things. I put my faith in situations and in people more than God, and that’s clearly a problem. So, how do you stop? It’s human nature to believe in what we see and not trust in what we cannot see.

Well, you get to know God and choose to believe in Him and in His truth. You surrender.

I know, that’s such a basic answer but it’s my truth. If I truly believe that God is Lord over my life, the Alpha and Omega, the author of my life, then why am I trying to be Lord over my own life? He’s either Lord of all or not Lord at all. Ever since I accepted this, my life has been changing. I am learning to love people for who they are, extend grace and be patient. I have healthier and better boundaries. I trust and believe that God controls my life, so I will keep holding on to Him and I believe that all things will work together, according to His perfect plan, so good or bad, I will still bless Him. With this in mind, even disappointment becomes a blessing in disguise because we know that God’s hand is in the midst.

I expect God to be God and I let people be people. God doesn’t only give hope, He IS hope.

It sounds cliché but it’s deeper and harder than what we think, especially if we struggle with letting go and control. It takes work on a daily basis but it’s the best decision we can ever make for ourselves, our relationship with God and others.

So pray for me y’all ! And I want to know, what is one thing that you’re working on right now?

One thought on “The Trap Of Expectations

  1. This is soo good! In this season I am also learning to trust the Lord as well. It is so easy to trust God when things are going good, but trusting Him when things are hard that's the real test. Also it is easy to say "I trust God" but it is a whole different story living it out. Looking forward to reading more posts!

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